Your Reality

What you strongly believe in becomes your reality. 

I buy this.  If I feel strongly enough about something if I believe whole heartedly then yes my reality is changed to accommodate this belief.

This holds true for every aspect on ones life.  In relationships with others, in your job, with your health and well being and with your finances.  The mind is a very powerful tool, use it carefully.

I believe in the power of positive thought, I also believe that negative thoughts bring negative results tenfold.  I believe that you can change your perspective and turn around all the negative events you feel overwhelmed with just the power of your thoughts. 

I recently had a conversation with a friend who like me believes in the power of the mind.  We both agree what we perceive is just that, we cannot force someone to see what we see or perceive what we perceive if they have their own perception of a situation or belief.

There is no sense trying to convince someone they are wrong when they believe they are right.  If they are willing to be open minded and perhaps try to see things from your point of view you may be able to get them to concede.  However if you are dealing with someone so strong in their convictions you are wasting valuable energy on them and may as well go talk to the wall for as far as you're going to get with them.

My reality is mine, yours is yours, there may be similarities, there will be differences it's how they fit together that will dictate the level of the relationship we may have.  Some people fit together almost seamlessly, others have holes and patches all over the place, yet both are equally capable of falling apart.  One little glitch in the system and bam! You're done. 

Do you have to be done?  Can you not adjust your reality and perception to fit better with someone else? I suppose but does it take away from who you are?  Are you compromising your integrity to please someone else, maybe someone who would never change their reality for you?  Where do you draw the line?  When does this become a problem?  How do you fix it and is it fixable? 

All that is up to you, how you feel about the situation, the individuals involved and the final outcome you would like.  What is your perception of the situation?  What are you willing to do to initiate dialogue?  Communication is the first step.  If there is a break down in communication how are you going to address the problems you perceive?

Well, you start talking.  Doesn't matter what the other person thinks, because the truth is you really don't know what the other person thinks do you?  Just say what is on your mind and let the chips fall where they may.  Write cue cards if you have to, or write yourself a letter and read it over a couple of times.  Your heart and head know what you want to say, you just have to convince your mouth to give your thoughts a voice.

Not an easy task, fear and uncertainty are battling it out in your mind.  Telling you not to say anything just keep quiet and keep the peace.  At what cost?  Your sanity?  Your health?  When is the price too high? When do you say "enough" and stop listening to fear and uncertainty and just start talking?  That's up to you.  There will be a shift and you will find strength and conviction to address the issues nagging at you, causing you to lose sleep at night.

Know this, there is no battle big enough in you mind that your mind cannot win.  It's all in the perception of the battle, it's all in your head.

That's, how I see it.
Tammy.