There Are No "Do Overs"

The worst thing I can imagine is losing a child.  How unbelievably heartbreaking it would be.  The hurt and loss insurmountable, yet somehow we manage.

I've experienced the passing of family and friends, it's a sad occasion and at times feels like the hurt will never end but with everything time heals and the pain subsides a bit.

To loose a child however would in my opinion be a totally different ball game.  As a mother, I am bound to my kids by an unbreakable thread.  The umbilical cord while cut still remains in spirit.  To loose a child does not sever the tie but transforms it to a constant source of pain and longing.  This I can imagine, just thinking about it causes phantom pain and it's unbearable.

The one thing this life teaches is there are no "do overs" where life is concerned.  Death is irreversible, ok there are cases of course where people have died and are revived, but real death, the kind you don't come back from is permanent.  There are many times when I wish it were reversible or we are given the chance at a do over but that just doesn't happen.

Make the most of the time we have here and now, and give your kids a huge hug and tell them you love them unconditionally and when you are angry or frustrated with them let them know it's their behaviour you are angry with not them.  That no matter what they have to know that you will not throw them to the wolves just because you are unimpressed with their behaviour.  Just remember that little bundle of joy that was physically attached to you even if now only metaphorically attached. 

That's, how I see it.
Tammy.